I found out I was pregnant at 22 years old, only a few months after my college graduation and merely a month before my wedding. From the moment my pregnancy test said “positive,” nothing has ever been the same. I was thrilled, of course, but if I’m honest…pretty freaking terrified as well. I didn’t expect this. I wasn’t mentally or practically prepared to become mom. What if I got it all wrong? 

Whether you planned to start your family or had a surprise baby like I did, I’m sure you can relate to the fear of being a “bad mom.” Society does not go easy on us moms, especially young moms. Unless you’re a robot, it’s impossible not to let some of this crushing pressure get to you. 

After many attempts at striving for perfection and falling short (effortless breastfeeding, consistent nap schedules, baby weight loss, balanced toddler meals, minimal screen time, never raising my voice, etc.) I felt deflated but also kinda mad. Why are moms the only people on earth expected to be perfect? 

A happier and more sustainable mom life started for me the moment I accepted my limitations and decided to try and be a “good enough mom” rather than a perfect one. Some days, we spend lots of time outside and eat well-rounded meals; others, we have too much screen time and eat to survive. I have found that releasing the emotional pressure to be consistently excellent and appreciating the beauty in the mess has allowed me to feel more present and inspired as a mom.